They are young women!

And now I know that these "Women" are really young women.

They are aged between 18 to mid 20's!

They each had a child out of wedlock. They must have committed this "crime" quite some time ago, but only now they are punished!

What about the partners? have they been punished?
These,... I'll call them girls because they are young! surrendered them self. they were not caught! they have probably already been through hell especially getting pregnant as a teenager (the 18 yr old) and having delivered a premature baby then having you tiny baby die. She must have been so very sorry already to surrender her self, and probably desperate to find relive for the guilt she carries. And of course she welcomes the punishment she thinks she's evil and deserves it.

One feels she's responsible for the future actions of the other young people. She hope they don't follow her foot steps. She's probably been told what a bad example she is!

the last has a 3 yr old child now. They said mid 20's so she's probable 24-25 - 3 yr old child - 10 months of pregnancy = she probably committed the offence when she was 17 or 18 as well.
I have no clue what it means by quote " although she had wanted to make things right by marrying her lover, she took a long time to do so as she could not find her father to give her away. However, I know that is not an excuse. I know that I am wrong." http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2010/2/19/nation/5704762&sec=nation

OK I am not a Muslim but why am i bothered about all of this?

it's because I may not be a Muslim but I am a human and so are these girls!

being a single mom is hard enough when you are an adult being one at that young age and in our society is worse! There are many who will say they had it coming and that this would makes kids nowadays think before having sex.

Hey I have a daughter too and I do not want her to become sexually active too young however this is the wrong way to go about it! The right way is to educate them. But our society has this wrapped sense of moral attitude and we still keep sex as a big taboo!

And what of the boys in this thing the fathers? Is it ok for them to have sex out of marriage BUT the girls must remain virgins until they marry?

The news is filled with various people explaining that the "rotanning" doesn't hurt at all no cuts, bruises, etc, etc. what about the mental trauma this causes? What about the humiliation it causes? what about how degrading it makes these girls feel? Even probably reaffirming in them what terrible sinners they are?

Someone else wrote that women wanted equal rights so they should accept the consequences of their actions. He let me quote " Why are these people justifying adultery? They’re concerned for the treatment of women, but this caning is NOTHING compared to the whipping under the Federal’s Criminal Law. Are they trying to be hypocrites now when they hate men cheating on them but now they are justifying adultery? Is this how you are being fair to we men? (Note to editors, delete this section if you think it sounds sexist, though it’s not to me)."http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/index.php/opinion/breaking-views/53640-caning-big-deal--jeg-hui-

It looks to me there is nothing fair about young girls who happen to fall for a guy then allow them selves to get pregnant and abandoned by him, after that raise the child by themselves, surrender to the authorities then get canning!

I think the reason they got the canning is because of someones ulterior motive. Hey they are young they already feel they are guilty and need to be punished so lets cane to show there is nothing wrong with it!

I'm very sure many people will say that val you are not Muslim do not get involved! mind your own business! But you know what this is not about the Muslim religion & it's Laws.

But I'm am writing about how unfair this 3 girls has been treated and it's not 100% their fault! Notice I have not once mentioned the case of Kartika why? because She is an adult and what she did was 100% her own decision I do not agree with her sentencing as well as I've seen many many many more men consume alcohol but they have not been canned once! but that is an issue for people more knowledgeable then my humble self.

This issue how ever is close to my heart being a single mom. And I have Muslim women friends they too are not happy with this. Why ask your own Muslim women friends they will tell you!

My dear sister had her confinement period about 3 months ago and it was rough on her.
She is a naturally out going person. She has an older boy aged 7 and between trying to nurse her new born baby (her 1st child was not a successful breast fed baby)and taking care of her 7yr old, keeping an eye on our aging (90yr old) grandma and deal with the confinement lady was a stressful time for her.

She is though very thankful for her dear husband help (he helped out when he got back form work) and our dearest 90yr old grandmother was a saint! God Bless AuntiMay, at 90 she still walks well, and still manages to help around the house.

My sister's mother-in-law is also a very good nice and strong lady! and she did so much for my sister as well knowing we did not have our mom anymore she kind of tried to stand in. And I am very very touched by her gesture.

Anyway, I'm getting away from the topic. CONFINEMENT!

I had a half confinement period, well kind of. I am a single parent so I had to do things by my self. I followed the 30 days never leaving the house. I had my daily showers though and i washed my hair when my baby was 3 days old. (I normally wash my hair daily as my hair gets very oily!) so 3 days is way tooo long! I bath my baby at day 4 coz my sister had to go to Singapore then (She was doing for me the 1st few days) I did not have a confinement lady. But I had my grandmother with me. She was God's gift to me. And I love her so very much! SHe helped me through everything.

I eat alot of pork and chicken with ginger and Chinese wine and I drank a lot of red dates water. I also had a lot of fruits and veges so that i did not constipate. You really wouldn't want constipation when you have stitches down there!

Anyway, i was wondering if confinement is really beneficial or not? I think that is is beneficial for the mom and the new baby but my daughter's father did not think so he thought it was a lot of bull. and he said his family did not need it. (He's British) And now 5 years later I just wonder if he is right? Is the traditional confinement period necessary?
I would like to know what others think.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank my dearest Grandmother (AuntiMay)for everything you have ever done for me and Girl-girl

and my sister and my brother-in-law for being there all the time and helping me do everything i couldn't

and my brother (Vince, thanks for handling Katrina's birth certificate applications for me),
and my dearest friends Amy & Victor,

And A special thank you to My brother-in-laws Mom for getting for me the Chinese wine and helping cook the soups for me).

The Canning of the Three Women

Ok it's been too long since I last posted.

I just saw the Movie Julie/Julia (thanks to my brother-in-laws' sister) And it got me itching to blog again.

Too many things has happened since I last posted and my my life is very different from about a year ago. but, the blogging must and it should continue.

I read in the Star online News today about the above title and TA-DA more hypocrisy. I'm sorry I am clueless in Islamic laws but somewhere, once, someone told me that Islam upholds and protects women. If this is true why is in in this beloved country of mine, they decided to cane women?

Ok, Ok I get it some women can be real B******! and I know there are women who commits illicit sex and adultery and etc, etc, etc. But don't the men do it too? Have they ever canned the men who commits illicit sex and commits adultery? I think not!


"They were the first women in Malaysia to receive such punishment under syariah law.

Hishammuddin said he decided to bring to public attention the punishment meted to the three women because there had been “too much hype” over Kartika’s sentence.

“People are saying that no woman has been caned before and that Kartika should not be caned.

“Today I am announcing that we have already done it. There is no hidden agenda, we are merely executing our responsibility,” he told a press conference at his office yesterday."

Why after so so so so long suddenly last Tuesday, women are being canned?

No hidden agenda? I think you are justifying your act!

I hope those men who neglect child maintenance after they casually discard their wives and move on the the new ones get punished but no they get away "scott free!"

you know what it's always been a bucket load of hypocrisy here and I'm fed up!

To all you women out there do not get in trouble is my advise.