Our Children are prey!

Recently there has been just too many violent acts against children.

Reading about a little child being raped, in front of other children in public had the hairs at the back of my neck stand on end. How can I ever trust sending my child to school in a school van/bus?

Are we so lax that anyone is able to obtain a driving license to ferry children? I guess we have no laws in place for that.

In today's papers it was reported of a 12 year old girl who was raped by 3 men! after she had a "telephone affair" with  a man. this man duped her into meeting him. someone else met her and took her to meet him however she was rape by 3 other men!

To me it sounded very much like the paper was blaming the 12 yr old girl for "having the telephone affair" with that man in the 1st place!

Why didn't the headline read:-
"Girl was raped because she was conned into meeting a man a telephone relationship"  

Instead the headline was :-

"Girl’s hand phone affair ends in rape."

They should have highlighted how come a 12 yr old was allowed to be friendly over the telephone with a total stranger?
Why is it our kids are not aware of the dangers out there?

If this child was aware that it was dangerous for her to meet a stranger, she would not have agreed to meet him.

If the child was warned against the paedophiles out there this may not have happened!
How old would your would you consider it save for a child be before she / he is allowed to use a pair of adult scissors? At what age is it fine for your child to use a knife by her/him self?
Isn't it true that when your child is learning to use the scissors or knife you would be very close to help him/her with it? to supervise him/her?
 
The same principle applies to the mobile phone, Internet, car, etc.
Do parents know the dangers of giving too much freedom too soon to the kids?
 
As a parent, would you, say "hey, you are old enough to learn to use the scissors here take this and use it wisely" to a child that has not had any lessons in using the dangerous object? Would you simply allow unsupervised use of it? 

 
Giving them too much freedom too soon is tantamount to neglecting the safety and well being of these children! Not to mention irresponsible. Isn't it our responsibility to protect the children under our care?
 
It is our responsibility as parents to PROTECT our kids, by making them aware of the dangers out there!
It is our responsibility to educate our children of the many evils of this world and the evils of humankind in general!
 It is our responsibility to make sure our kids comes to us with any tiny problems they may have!
It is our responsibility that our children trust us enough to tell us anything!
Even if it is about a "boy friend, or a girlfriend", even if it is about sex, drugs, anything. 
If our children trust us 100% they will not need to do things in secret!
It is OUR responsibility to earn our childrens' trust!
 
 
In our country convicted rapist after being let out from prison, is totally free! They can do what ever they want again because we have no way of tracking them.
 
Currently, the Penal Code punishment for the rape of a child under 12 is a jail term of up to (this is the maximum) 30 years and caning. most of the time they do not get the maximum.

Statistics from the police's sexual crimes and children investigation division revealed a 50 per cent rise in the number of sex offences for five consecutive years from 2005.

In 2006,a total of 2,048 rape cases involving girls aged 16 and below were recorded compared with 925 cases in 2005. There is not much figure on rape of boys most probably because it's not reported!

How many convicted rapist and paedophiles are out there living among us? May be even living near to us? How would I know if my neighbour is a rapist or a paedophile? how would I know if the security guard at my building where i live is a rapist or a paedophile? What about the taxi driver? The bus driver? the chicken rice seller? The roti man? The grocery shop assistant that sends me gas one a month? OK how about more closer? my neighbour's son? what about my babysitter's husband? what about my husband's friend? what about my boy friend? or fiance?
The point is we do not know who or what those around us can be or even are!

In the US, all sex offenders are registered. It was made it a criminal offense for a registered sex offender to move to another state and knowingly fail to notify the FBI and authorities in the new state. Notification to the FBI and state authorities must be made within 10 days upon moving to a new state and/or establishing residence following release from prison or placed on parole, supervised release, or probation. Upon release, each sex offender is notified of their lawful duty to register with the FBI and appropriate local authorities."

I was just thinking our country is focused on vision 2020, the multi media super corridor and such. why can't out country register sex offenders as well? If only we can adopt the US system for this purpose, i know I would feel much more releived.

Maternit leave? Yes We need more!

I read somewhere something about extra maternity leave ans some people were for it and also some against it.

I am all for it. I'm a  mom and If i ever wanna go thru bringing a child in this world again when i'm also working then i will need it! People being a parent to a new born baby is the most stressful, job in the world! especially so if u r a one parent household!

But lets speak for the majority here. imagine the mom after carrying her baby in her body for the past 40 weeks (average to full term) finally gets her body back but from the time she goes into labour (let me emphasise here the word LABOUR) she has no rest and that's not to say she was comfortable in the 40 weeks 4 the labour begun. she only gets relieve once the baby has join the world we live in and is no longer in her body! she has to go thru the 1st day/night with her infant she can sleep no matter how tired she is as there are things to d like changing her cloths a few times and trying to do it without pain. her feelings for the new infant, worrying, dealing with other family members (thank God she has her partner beside her helping her thru). she has to feed the baby (she has to feed it no matter if from her breast or otherwise)

Then this part just continues on for the next week until things calm down a bit at home but she has very little sleep not only the mom but also the dad! for the next week (that's 2 weeks now) the family has to entertain visitors and well wishes too as well as caring for the baby. no rest at nite and not enough rest during the day either. once things settle a bit  in another 2 weeks when the confinement time is up, they have to prepare either a kenduri, full moon or baptism celebration. every culture has it's own and it involves a lot of additional stress and sleepless nites.

The next month, things are getting more settled, the mom & dad need to look for someone to take care of the baby once mom starts working again. Unfortunately the mom has to go back to work just after  2months she is not fully recovered her baby is still very young. they both mom & baby need the extra time.

And the fathers should be given more time too. some companies do not even allow the fathers paternity leave not even 1 day! the fathers had 40 weeks of being with his pregnant wife then he had to go thru the labour without being able to offer much but comfort then after that he has to deal wit all the paper work and help his wife with the baby and work a full time job as well.

But we were all babies once and we all had parents too we too may all one day be parents so let's consider are we really a caring society or a money making society?

As a single working adult for 15 yrs of my life I've had a few colleagues who when on maternity leave never once did resentment fill my mind because of any additional work i have due to her absence. never once did i feel "hey why r u getting paid but i'm doing ur work? however i did resent some colleagues who used to take MC's just becoz they cud and not coz they were sick! it was ans still is 2 very different issues to me.

As a parent of a 6 yrs old, and i have no future intentions of having another kid, Malaysia really must realise that when we are caring we get much more then when we are calculative.
If a boss really cares about his/her workers, they will know it and they will give their 110% effort in appreciation!

I've been working for more than 1/2 of my life and i have had the honor of working for some very good people, those of us who had the privileged to work for them, to us it was some of our best memories! I've also had the "horror" of working for some very self serving people and let me tell u i learned the many ways of not giving as much as i can!

So i think it is a very good idea if more time can be given for maternity & paternity leaves.

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Friday June 18, 2010

Cut down on overheads, says Raja Nong Chik

PETALING JAYA: Earning RM3,000 a month should be manageable if folks living in cities cut down on overheads such as Astro and cars, said minister Datuk Raja Nong Chik Raja Zainal Abidin.
The Federal Territories and Urban Well-Being Minister said having cars could be a burden owing to the high cost of maintenance.
He added that a survey showed there was an average of three cars to a flat unit.
However, he did not say if the three-car-to-a-flat ratio was due to several tenants staying in one unit.

No wonder i see some families (dad, mom, and 3 kids) riding one motorbike all over he place! Must be his idea!

“For example, if waiters can manage an average of 10 tables each, the restaurant operator need not hire too many waiters and could therefore pay them better salaries.

Huh! I hope he is not referring to a table of 10 persons coz that would mean waiting on 100 people at one time! I'd like to see the waiter or waitress who can do that!!!  Hey May be you should show us how it is done!

Hey Mr What's Your Name! If your salary is RM3000 a month, 
you only get a take home pay of Rm 2700 (at the most) 
Then if you rent a flat for Rm 400 a month (because I have never seen a flat that is below RM300 anyway near KL!) 
And you have 2 kids one in pre school the other a baby you need to pay for baby sitter and kindergarten which can take up at the very least RM600 a month
Let's not forget you have to pay for petrol, and car maintenance which let's put aside RM400 a month. 
Then you have utility bills of around RM200 a month and the prepaiod phone (for both the spouse) RM100 Now let's take it that there is no home phone. 
Then you need to pay for insurance for 4 persons lets say it's RM500 then the rest is for Diapers, milk, food for 4 persons. 

Tell me Mr What's your name, how much do you have left?! Please note there is no astro, or cinema movies or family outing meals included!

That's why la next time better use your brains to think before making smart ass statements! 

And excuse me, I'm earning half that amount and living in SEREMBAN that's a city too almost!
So please go give your comments to someone who was born yesterday! because I wasn't!