The Canning of the Three Women

Ok it's been too long since I last posted.

I just saw the Movie Julie/Julia (thanks to my brother-in-laws' sister) And it got me itching to blog again.

Too many things has happened since I last posted and my my life is very different from about a year ago. but, the blogging must and it should continue.

I read in the Star online News today about the above title and TA-DA more hypocrisy. I'm sorry I am clueless in Islamic laws but somewhere, once, someone told me that Islam upholds and protects women. If this is true why is in in this beloved country of mine, they decided to cane women?

Ok, Ok I get it some women can be real B******! and I know there are women who commits illicit sex and adultery and etc, etc, etc. But don't the men do it too? Have they ever canned the men who commits illicit sex and commits adultery? I think not!


"They were the first women in Malaysia to receive such punishment under syariah law.

Hishammuddin said he decided to bring to public attention the punishment meted to the three women because there had been “too much hype” over Kartika’s sentence.

“People are saying that no woman has been caned before and that Kartika should not be caned.

“Today I am announcing that we have already done it. There is no hidden agenda, we are merely executing our responsibility,” he told a press conference at his office yesterday."

Why after so so so so long suddenly last Tuesday, women are being canned?

No hidden agenda? I think you are justifying your act!

I hope those men who neglect child maintenance after they casually discard their wives and move on the the new ones get punished but no they get away "scott free!"

you know what it's always been a bucket load of hypocrisy here and I'm fed up!

To all you women out there do not get in trouble is my advise.

The New Straits Times Online: 2 youngsters killed in crash

The New Straits Times Online: 2 youngsters killed in crash

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The headline made me feel very sad for the lost of such young lives. However, after I read this article, I was perplexed. Why was a 14yr old riding a motorbike and sending her 20 yr old sister to work? I am sure the 14 yr old has no license as such why was she allowed to ride the bike? why did the family allow it?! and isn't the motor bike built to carry just 2 passengers on it? why was the 2 yr old on the bike as well?

This is how it is in Malaysia!

We as responsible adults allow this to happen, We allow our loved one to break the rules. We show them by bad examples to break traffic laws. As such it is our fault that these very young babies has had their lives cut short.

The rear seat belt rule has been in place for the past 6 months yet everyday while driving to and from work or around town even on the highway I see rear passengers in the car without seat belts on. Mainly i see kids standing in the car!

I am a parent too. My child refused to buckle up in the car too. She is very stubborn but after the 1st 10 arguments and lots of wailing and tantrums, now she tell me to not move the car until she is safely buckled up in it. My secret was i told her that from the 1st of January 2009 she is in charge of the back passengers, she can scold anyone who doesn't listen to her instruction to buckle up in the car. And it works! many of my adult friends has had the unfortunate experience of getting a telling off from my 4 yr old for not buckling up when in the car. She helps My grand ma to buckle up too. And I am very proud of her.

It is not easy to get kids in to a new habit, yes i know, but no matter how stubborn they are we are still the responsible ones, we are responsible for their safety, for their lives.
It's the same as wearing a helmet when riding a bike. Riding or driving without a license. running a red light, not using the indicator when turning left or right, cutting ques, etc.
And thinking back on all these bad habits we has adults do and teach our young to do, I am very ashamed and filled with guilt. For me, I will make it my priority to follow the laws more stringently no matter how late i am or how empty the road is. I will make sure i do not be a bad example to the young children around me.

A dedication to you mummy.

I wish for just one more time to see your face, looking at your photo is just not enough,

I wish just once more to hug you close.

I can still remember the last hug i gave you was the 1st day i saw you in hospital, Wednesday 3rd March 2004.

You were so weak.

So different from the last time I saw you, when you were strong and healthy and you hug me tightly, ironically also a Wednesday 17th Dec 2003 The day I left you at the airport.

I wish with all my heart to go back in time and re-do every action & every word that i had said that had caused you hurt.

I wish that the day i became a mother myself that you were there with me,

but,... you were not and you will never be here again.

I wish with every fibre of my body to be able to wish you a Happy Mother's day you your sweet face, instead of standing over your grave and reminising all those Mother's days we spent together before and wondering if you know that I love you Mummy, and I miss you so very much, that 5 years is still not long enough to lessen the pain of losing you.

But as a mother too now, I know how much you love me, how much you love us your children.

You showed us your love with all your care and strugle to bring us up.

I wish when my turn comes too, my daughter knows how much I love her, just as I know how much you love me.

Happy Mother's Day, Mummy, Rest in peace.

Happy Mother’s Day!

When I had you in my belly

I thought that was the most wonderful feeling that any woman can feel

When I gave birth to you I thought you were the most beautiful baby in the world

When you made your first mumble I thought that was the most beautiful song to my ears

When you said your first word I thought that was the happiest day in my life

When you made your first step I thought that was the biggest achievement that I’ve made

And

when you had your first fever I thought; what did I do wrong? And I was really worried That I requested to stay home just to take care of you

Then when you cry, I would be worried. Are you hungry, or thirsty, or in pain? Or are you just sleepy?

When you are asleep, I would be worried. Are you comfortable, are you warm enough? Or should I put your favourite teddy bear next to you?

When you first attended school I was worried, would you be safe there?

Would there be anyone disturbing you, or hurting you?

Can I leave you in school all by yourself?

When I saw little children anywhere , I would be reminded of you

Because my little angel is at home, safe and sound

There are no perfect words to describe how much I love you my child

No matter how angry i am at you in that minute, It's forgotten with the love that I have for you the very next minute

It’s not possible that I would stop loving you my child,

ever!

No matter what your feelings are towards me,

For I would sacrifice anything & Everything that I have

Just to make sure that you are happy, healthy and safe

When I think about my life,

I know my life is perfect,

You made it perfect when you came into my world

I know then my life would be empty with out you my dearest child.

I love you.

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