Can I just slap you for making me feel so disgusted and insulted!?

I feel disgusted over what the Malacca government is trying to do! Truly I try to understand how they may think this was a good solution it’s because he is a man and has never ever been in the single mother’s shoes! I know that they think this is a good deed and this is helping the Single moms. But it just totally makes my skin crawl!

Here I quote from The Star Saturday November 1, 2008

Malacca may give RM1,000 to men who take them as second wives.

MARRIED men in Malacca may receive RM1,000 from the state government if they choose to take poor, single mothers as second wives, reported Harian Metro.

The daily quoted Malacca Chief Minister Datuk Seri Mohd Ali Rustam, (what a very narrow mind you have sir) who made the proposal, as stressing that the incentive would be given on condition, among others, that the men do not divorce their first wives. “May be the single mom who re-marries can be the servant as well as new concubine! Hey this will stop the men form going outside the home to have an affair! Oh yes and the kids will be little helpers around the house! On top of that there’s the RM1000 bonus the bugger gets paid! Way to go Datuk! Keep on thinking with your dick!”

He said the move was not to encourage polygamy but to ease the burden of single mothers who are dependent on welfare aid from various parties. “And just how will it ease the single mother’s burden when the money goes to the man?!”

“The matter is still being considered. ”Well my advise is better start un-considering it!” The state government will decide following discussions with various parties, including the Malacca Islamic Religious Department, Women and Family Development Council and Welfare Department,” he said.

Are we cows!? That you can just give away like an incentive?! Are we so worthless to this country that you need to give men money to marry us off?! Do you really think that getting re-married is the best solution?!

Have you ever considered that we are sick of men trying to undermine our independence? SO we are struggling, at least some of us do not have to put up with abusive men in our lives anymore!

Have you considered that getting re-married is a thought that will never cross the widow who longs for her dearest love who has left this world and never can she consider being re-married ever again?

Have you ever considered that those who have been deeply hurt and abandoned by their ex husbands will be likely to jump up and re-marry again!

Yes I do agree some of us are lucky enough to start a new life with someone new, but that new man should want to marry without the thought of RM1000 “reward” on his mind!

I’m not even going to touch on the 1^st wife that was mentioned! Go do some homework man!

What makes me so pissed off is: Why he would suggest giving the money to the men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hwy cant he just suggest giving the money to the single mothers them selves irrelevant if they re-marry or choose to live their single lives!

STOP INSULTING US AND TREATING US LIKE LEFTOVERS AT A PARTY!

Disorder in the American Courts

I received this in an email today and found it so funny! I have no idea if it is really in a book somewhere and if it was really heard in court but,..... some things really needs to be shared like humour.
Happy reading!

These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and
are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken
down and now published by court reporters who had the torment of
staying calm while these exchanges were actually taking place.

ATTORNEY: Are you sexually active?
WITNESS: No, I just lie there.
____________ _________ _________ ________

ATTORNEY: What gear were you in at the moment of the impact?
WITNESS: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.
____________ _________ _________ ________

ATTORNEY: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: And in what ways does it affect your memory?
WITNESS: I forget.
ATTORNEY: You forget? Can you give us an example of something you forgot?
____________ _________ _________ _______

ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that morning?
WITNESS: He said, 'Where am I, Cathy?
ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you?
WITNESS: My name is Susan!
____________ _________ _________ _______
ATTORNEY: Do you know if your daughter has ever been involved in voodoo?
WITNESS: We both do.
ATTORNEY: Voodoo?
WITNESS: We do.
ATTORNEY: You do?
WITNESS: Yes, voodoo
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: Now doctor isn't it true that when a person dies in his sleep, he doesn't know about it until the next morning?
WITNESS: Did you actually pass the bar exam?
____________ _________ _________ ______
ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the twenty-year- old, how old is he?
WITNESS: Uh, he's twenty-one.
____________ _________ _________ _________ _
ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken?
WITNESS: Are you kidding' me?
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: So the date of conception (of the baby) was August 8th?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: And what were you doing at that time?
WITNESS: Uh... I was getting' laid!
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: She had three children, right?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: How many were boys?
WITNESS: None.
ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?
WITNESS: Are you shittin' me? Your Honour, I think I need a different attorney. Can I get a new attorney?
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?
WITNESS: By death.
ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?
WITNESS: Now whose death do you suppose terminated it?
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual?
WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard.
ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?
WITNESS: Guess.
____________ _________ _________ _______
ATTORNEY: Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition notice, which I sent to your attorney?
WITNESS: No, this is how I dress when I go to work.
____________ ________ ______ ____________
ATTORNEY: Doctor, how many of your autopsies have you performed on dead people?
WITNESS: All my autopsies are performed on dead people. Would you like to rephrase that?
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school did you go to?
WITNESS: Oral.
____________ _________ _________ ________
ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body?
WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 pm .
ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?
WITNESS: No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I was doing an autopsy on him!
____________ _________ _________ _________ _____
ATTORNEY: Are you qualified to give a urine sample?
WITNESS: Huh....are you qualified to ask that question?
____________ _________ _________ ________
And the best for last:
____________ _________ _________ _______
ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: How can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: I see, but could the patient have still been alive, nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law.

WISHING ALL MY FRIENDS A VERY HAPPY DEEPAVALI!

Living thru our kids.

My friend was just telling me today that her mom will be going on a holiday again, she just got back from a trip to Phuket.

Thinking about her mom having it much easier now after years for struggling on her own (a widow of 18years with 7 kids to raise alone!).

I suppose it was way tougher then compared to life nowadays. Being a Single Parent i tend to sympathise with all single parents no matter if they had a tough life or an easy one i feel it may just seem easy to the untrained eye.

Like for me, I get by day to day, after some time things just becomes a routine and somehow you kind of get used to it. But still you are lonely, tired, many times discouraged and desparate fo get to thru to the next month.

Anyway back to what i was thinking about initially, I just hope that when my daughter is an adult she too will tell me "Mama, why don't you go for a holiday? all expenses paid for of cause!" Wow wouldn't that be nice!

But then again it's never wise to hope and think that one day your kids will do this or that for you.

I was raised by a single mother too. No matter how much I as her daughter wanted to make her life easier, by buying a house for her, working and having enough money so she wil never have to work a day in her life again, sending her on a holiday to Australia,etc,... it never happened.
So What my mom may have hope for from us her kids, i'm very sure it never materialised.

I too must not hope on my daughter because to do so would just bring disappointment later on.

As parents we tend to put alot of our dreams on to our children. Dreams of our kids loving us so much, dreams of them doing so well, dreams of them so sucessful in life that it's just automatically assumed that in our our old age, they will look after us.

We are parents, it is not our right to ask to be taken care of when we are old it is our duty to take care of our children. It is a rare priviledge that our kids would want to and are able to care for us when the time comes.

I'm sure many of you would disagree with what i've said but this is my opinion.

Only very fortunate and blessed parents who have kids that will watch over them and care for them in thier old age.

They are very very blessed when their kids are able and willing to do so. We cannot fault them if they are willing but are unable to afford to look after us.

So we as old parents of the future, what are we to do when the time comes?

And that is my reflection for today.